The title of this post is so very true and is something I like to think of anytime I get frustrated with the results of something or feel I’m not being given fair value.
I'm sure many of you who have these moments when it comes to steemit.
Are we Really Owed Anything?
In the end, no one really owes us anything. We choice to help people or we don’t. We choose to share valuable knowledge with people or we don’t.
If someone asks you for something, the onus is on you whether you will help them or charge a fee. To have an “unspoken expectation” of something in return is on you, not them.
Yes, there is common decency. Yes, I feel if I provide value to someone continuously they should show their appreciation for it.
I certainly do so when the roles are reversed, but that is my decision.
They are not obligated to think that way (though I wish they were).
I Deserve Better
If you ever hear yourself uttering those words than know this;
- You are the only one that can impact that!
How Do We Get What We Deserve?
By learning how to find win-win scenarios instead of being the one getting the raw side of a interaction, transaction or what have you.
Simplest way to do that is acquire some knowledge so you have the confidence to ask for what you believe you are worth.
My recommendations is the following book:
- Never Split the Difference – by Chris Voss
He discusses how splitting the difference usually leaves both parties unsatisfied and teaches techniques to find the "happy place" if you will. The spot where you feel valued and they feel like they are getting a good deal.
Okay Okay, but how does any of this relate to Steemit?
That is a good question, we cannot exactly negotiate on steemit – or can we?
Interaction on steemit is key - however let me first discuss what that does not mean:
Commenting on people's post with "Good Job, following you now follow me!"
- Uhm, yeah...no. That is not genuine and you probably copy pasted that into 100 posts
That example is the antithesis of quality genuine interaction.
Interaction = Friendship and Friendship = Interaction
In many cultures, and much more so in Asian than in American cultures, friendship is a win-win scenario.
When you are friends with someone you look to grow and uplift one another, which in the long run is a better end result for both parties than when one person takes advantage or leverages another.
Embracing the Steemit Community
By embracing the steemit community and truly opening yourself up to meet and get to know new friends you will eventually find those that look to uplift you just as you uplift them.
It won't happen overnight, but what good things ever do?
Plus, you will run into some people that are selfish and don't give a damn about others. It is what it is, those people will either not be on steemit for long once they have exhausted their money grab or you can simply end your interaction with them once you realize they are only out for themselves.
Remember, we are a product of those we associate with, so.....
Find and Keep Good Company!
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