"In life, we have to trust others in so many ways, and often times we have to rely on trust so that we can survive and prosper."
When it comes to trust issues, we have to consider so many different things. Trusting someone is tough and it's become tougher in modern days. People have so many different faces, you may never know what they really are, what they are hiding under their beautiful smiles. But we have to have trust; otherwise, we will be very fragile emotionally, at the end of the day.
And then the basic question arises, "How to trust people"?
You can name it 'Gut feeling' what I usually follow when it comes to 'Who do you trust and how do you trust'. I depend on my intuition. But depending on it can be a little difficult if you don't have a good connection with thyself.
I try to ground myself in my belief and observe what I see. A person's behavior tells a thousand words. Yeah, it's not easy, especially if I have an emotional connection with that person. I learned it in a very hard way that we need to come over from the emotional ground and have to look for trustworthy behavior.
It's not very hard to know if you can trust someone or not, if you know yourself in the first place. I trust myself. And when I approve someone to trust, I go with that. To be honest my trust list is very short because of this. Not even my close friends and family members are on the list.
I open up to myself if I don't find anyone suitable. That sometimes feels enough for me
Another thing is, 'who to trust' comes with a different form. For financial matters, I trust my husband and my Mom, for relationship issues, I trust one of my closes friends. I think it may not be a good decision to trust someone for everything.
As I have said earlier, observing trustworthy behavior actually helps a lot. You can decide easily, who to trust for what. I usually don't like to test people on trust, it doesn't feel good, rather going with my intuition is much preferable for me. Moreover, I depend on my intuition when I need to withdraw my trust in someone.
Now coming with the most important thing- Be trustworthy. If I'm looking for someone to trust, it's very obvious that others are also looking for me. And finding someone to trust is a blessing. So, I believe giving others the feeling of this little blessing is also necessary. I try to act trustworthy for this reason. But if the thing doesn't feel right, I withdraw myself from that person or thing so they can know I no longer belong to their list.
Why I'm saying this?
Extra Marital affair- It happens to one of my close female friends. And the moment I came to know it from her (as she thought I'm the one she can share this secret) I withdraw myself. I advised her, I try to show her a way out and when nothing worked I just withdraw myself from our close relationship. But I didn't break her trust to expose the secret.
Maybe this example can make you understand more about me.
So, that's it. I think I have managed to cover every necessary thing about trust as my answer to @ecotrain's QOTW. If you want to share yours, see the detail Here
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