I have often thought about writing down some of the things my children have said or still say, sometimes it blows me away what they come out with, sometimes it has me in stitches. But I haven't done it so far, I wish I had, but hey now I can write it on the blockchain and here it will stay, nice that.
Yesterday I was in my parents house, me and my three girls were all in the bathroom while my two eldest were washing themselves. We were just chatting about what we had been doing and also talking about visiting my sister, their aunt for the final time before we go back to Spain. My girls tell me they love me all the time, as I do them. Love flows freely between us all. So when my eldest told me she loved me, I fired back that I loved her too. But then she looked and me and said
I Love Sinead more, because she needs my love, my love is going to make her better.
Sinead is of course my sister and that comment just floored me, it had me in tears, the happy ones. My second daughter then said
I'm going to love her more and I'm going to keep thinking of her well, with no tubes in her back and with all her hair and she'll get all better.
They were so excited by what they had said and about the fact that their love was going to help her get better. I was totally overwhelmed and so proud of them both. I felt like they had just given my sister a huge gift, given her so much healing, showering her with love.
I have been very open abut my sister and her healing journey, my family in Ireland where a little unsure whether or not I should tell them everything, but of course I do. They have every right to know and children have these amazing ability to see things for what they really are. They are so amazing at how they manage their emotions and express themselves, that anything that we consider being full on, they can accept a lot quicker and move on. We rarely give them the credit that they deserve for their ability to navigate themselves through their lives, often trying to protect them from things that we think they can not handle. But in reality we are projecting our fears and uncertainties on to them. Being truthful is so important, I want my children to be able to talk to me, I want to know how they are feeling and that goes both ways. We can not expect to want so much from our children if we are not willing to share ourselves with them.
Of course there is the need for personal space on both sides, that is something that is so important. But with open and honest communication that is established. My eldest who is still only 9 has no problems telling me that she wants some time by herself and also if she does not want to discuss something with me. I accept that, I trust that in her own time that she will come to me if she needs to. That's another huge thing, trust, how can we expect any if we don't trust them first.
If I need some time by myself, I will tell my two eldest that I do, I used to feel guilty until I realized how important it is to advocate the need to take time for yourself. Our children follow our lead so much, so by us practising self care, it is enforcing that need, it is normalizing it. Hopefully when they are older they will have no problems taking time out for themselves.
So this post was to be all about what our children say, but when we write, sometimes other things come out. Sometimes one spark inspires a load more. That is what I love about writing.
I am still blown away by what my girls said. Writing it now makes me teary again. Their capacity for healing and love is so amazing. They really just fill my heart, my love just overflows for them. The power of love. The power of words indeed. What a gift they have unleashed.
I would love to know what things your children say, that blow you away, that inspire you?
My children inspire me so much, I feel so lucky to be their mother and I love the journey I am on with them and the adventures that they take me on.
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